The Negotiators Secrets

Greetings Negotiators!

Although I am passionate about my Negotiating material, insights, strategies, etc., I do my best to shy away from controversial topics for my blog. I differentiate between controversial and sensational. Sensational draws clicks to my site, gets peoples’ voyeuristic side engaged and is a great marketing tool. Controversial on the other hand usually divides the readers literally in two, which is to say – those who agree and those who disagree.

Today, I wish to share my insights and experience with the seldom-thought-of, greatly devalued resource that is in my opinion THE resource of all the resources a Negotiator has available. The reason that I share this with you today is that I would use my blog to inspire and compel any of you who read it to find any way you can to preserve this resource. Before I tell you what the resource is, I want you to see the following:

 

I suspect by now you are clear on the resource I am referring too. I’ve seen this video about 8 times now and I would think after a few times of watching it I might become numb to the reality that video represents. Fortunately that is not so. The intense passion and the depth of the seriousness that I feel for being free and being able to express myself freely does not chill so easily as I feared.

I’m neither for nor against John Kerry, I have no idea what he was speaking about. I know though if I was someone who won the presidential vote even if I lost the election and I cared about freedom of speech – I would never allow local police to arrest anyone for asking me a question – no matter how much I might hate that question.

One form of speech inhibiting that occurs in our society today, especially in the U.S. is the Matrix-esque political correctness. The whole idea that you are “not supposed to say that” reflects how far the average citizen has been mislead by the mega-conglomerate mass-media and their owners. The mere fact that the police were standing right behind the microphone for the question and answer session suggest to me that the whole production was done with the repression of freedom of speech in mind.

If you ever find yourself in a situation similar to this – my advice to you is to challenge the information. You ask as many resourceful questions as you can possibly think of. Challenge everything they do if it’s about inhibiting your right to speak. Regardless of the “investigations” or even potential trial outcomes that might occur as a result of this event between the social dissenting college student and a should-have-been president – those cops were breaking many laws. The fat white one even had the mindless pride to look up and smile right in the camera. If our children who we send to college to learn more about life and the world might be arrested for asking the wrong questions – where have we come to?

In almost every case when someone lies – it is because the challenge to their information is so strong that they are afraid of the truth. The truth being in most peoples minds a relative thing is the most accurate portrayal of any person’s right-minded understanding of whatever context is being challenged. Are you afraid to ask hard questions? Are you afraid of being asked hard questions? If you are afraid then challenge your own information! Discover the source of your fear and Negotiate to Your Own Best Good in order to transcend it.

I encourage responses to today’s video and my take on it. You are as always welcome to challenge the information! You can leave a comment or send an email directly to me at justask@yourownbestgood.com. You may also sign up for my newsletter and receive the FREE NEGOTIATORS CHECKLIST on the top right-hand side of my site.

What would you be willing to learn now if every time you opened your mouth, you got exactly what you asked for?

Bruce Burns the Negotiator!

Greetings Negotiators!

In the last few days my subscriber list has climb considerably! I want to welcome all the new folks to my Negotiator’s Training Grounds. Some of the new subscribers might have heard about my website, products and services through Pat O’bryan’s recent book Launch:

 

So of course I now have to tell you the latest Bruce & Pat story. Before I begin the story I just want to breakdown the road to how I became the Negotiator and more recently the Dateinator (will explain this title in a minute). In 1989 I was certified in a technique called Neuro-Associative Conditioning Systems created by Anthony Robbins. I was fortunate enough to have gone to the 2nd to last 15 day certification process in Maui, Hawaii. The Certification Process was the first significant benchmark in my developing human-behavior and human-results model. The title interventionist was what I went by and still do from time to time helping couples, families and businesses break the cycle of unfulfilling results and installing-developing new resourceful processes instead. I’ve worked with and helped some of the most challenged people you can imagine.

Two areas of personal challenge were common to almost all my clients: 1)the world of personal & intimate relationships and 2)Communicating AND Getting what you want in both the personal and professional worlds we live in.

I discovered along the road of my now almost 19 years of Intervention that getting what you want was nearly an infinite market for me to apply my profession toward. I stress-tested the world of Negotiations and Negotiators and discovered that the demand was very high and the supply was very low. After a few clients created the Negotiating Results they wanted and never thought they would achieve I hung out a new shingle and my Negotiating career took off with wings and a sizzle. Thus I entered (unbeknown to me at th time) the highest paid profession in the world.

When you try something new, something new always happens! The number 1 topic that people want to learn HOW TO Negotiate on is personal relationships. The seeds of the Dateinator were planted. The source for the title Dateinator is of course Dating Coach + Terminator + Negotiator. I’m not sure I’ll keep it since it’s still kind of new, so if you have a better suggestion then please send me your suggestions. If I use your suggestion I’ll gladly provide you with my up & coming The Negotiator’s Checklist Explained audio gratis. With encouragement from clients from every genre of Intervention – I began Date & Relationship coaching. And now back to our story…

One of the techniques I used is called pattern interrupt (see #10). I was sitting at a nearby Starbucks with one of my newest Dating and Relationship clients. We were on about hour number 2 when I wondered if someone had dropped a Twilight Zone pill in my coffee. In through the door walks this mountain of a man that I would recognize anywhere because of all the public work we’ve done together – the One the Only Pat O’Bryan. My client of course was impressed that I new Pat and we hugged like to Sumo Wrestlers (I’m not tiny) would hug as is our custom.

Pat is the creator of Your Portable Empire and nothing reveals a man’s true colors as much as a behind the scenes peek into what he is doing. After Pat and I said our hellos and introduced him to my Date & Relationship Coaching Client he said “Hopefully I can work on some emails finally…” took his lap top out and proceeded to work on his Portable Empire.

If you would like to comment or ask a question about anything I’ve shared today please feel free to leave it in the comments section or you can write me directly at justask@yourownbestgood.com. In the days to come I’ll be setting up something more definite about my Date & Relationship Coaching.

I’ll see you at the Negotiating Table!

Bruce Burns the Negotiator!

Greetings Negotiators,

Two weekends ago I went to a “Metaphysical Seminar” or something like that. Now, I’m not sure if I come off as being skeptical in my posts or not, but if I don’t, I am. And if I don’t it’s probably just an unconscious reaction to the concern I might have for some of my readers who may be “way” into things that happen at a “Metaphysical Seminar”. This seminar wasn’t like a religion with it’s “topics” it was mostly focused on healing the self or seeing into the invisible worlds through tarot cards, psychics, that sort of thing. One man even had an Aura Camera and I had not one $25 picture taken but two.

The reason I went was because my wife and I were invited by:

Chris & Ginger Pennell, Developers/Owners

to try out their healing device:

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I’m not sure they knew I was a big New Age skeptic, but skepticism isn’t enough to keep me from learning from people who are different so while my wife laid on the table and experienced her 30 minutes of “therapy” I mingled around the large ball room where all the different participants displayed their tables, wares and services.

 

The last booth that I investigated was defined by it’s colorful yet simple sign “Aura Photos”. This was right across the way from where Suzanne was laying down so I could easily watch for my “turn”. After speaking to the proprietor of the Aura-Photo booth, I did what I always do – I made a deal. In exchange for a before and after photo (before and after I laid on the table with the colorful lights I was so skeptical about)I would provide him some internet exposure, which I’m doing now. The details of the deal will of course be kept confidential because being too “glad” about what a great deal you got in public can often sour future opportunities.

 

Bruce and the Aura Photographer

So, what is it that I’m really in a lather about? I was wonderfully surprised at how amazing the entire Chromatic Therapy was! I don’t go to therapists, massage therapists (though I like them), Reiki masters, healers, doctors, vets or free-hug huggers. Perhaps because of my memory of having strep throat and my mother taking me to the doctor who looked like he’d slept in his suit for 3 days charging my mother $25 to say “You’re son has strep throat” and then telling me I’d walk it off or something without prescribing any medication.

So, I crawled atop the Chromatic Therapy Table and Ginger put a nice headset on my ears. Then the first amazing surprise happened – the table began to play music with the headphones. My whole body was listening to this amazing yet calming symphony, not just my ears. The sonic vibrations of the table put me into an almost instant trance. I tried to impress Chris with my knowledge of electrical work (he invented and created the entire device himself) only to watch him give me that knowing smile of someone not yet full in the Kinetic Chromatherapy Table Trance.

Chris and Ginger both worked on me non-stop for 30 minutes from my head to my toes. They bring there own super oxygenated water and I thought in my new-agey skeptic’s way that it was quaint until the sessions was over. I was parched. I was literally dehydrated. All I had done was lay down and listen to their music and be vibrated by their sonic table and let them do their “thing” (which I don’t know enough about to explain) for 30 minutes and suddenly I’m in a condition that is akin to running 10 miles and having super cotton mouth.

I felt very very different afterwards. I liked the session so much that I would love to have the entire device in my own home. Here is what my “aura” looked like before the session:

My Aura Before Chromatic Therapy (click to enlarge)

My Aura After Chromatic Therapy (click to enlarge)

I have much to share about how I Negotiated to my own best good that day, but for the benefit of the fine people that worked on me that day and captured my aura for posterity – I want to get this up now. More to come.

If you’ve Negotiated to Your Own Best Good lately in regards to your Aura or would like to know more about how to do that, please feel free to leave a comment or write to me directly at justask@yourownbestgood.com.

I’ll see you at the Negotiating Table!

Bruce Burns, The Negotiator!