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Wed, 31 Dec 2008 05:59:59 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en GSFN post: Website age ratings \'an option\' ( http://tinyurl.com/9dcp23 ) # GSFN post: Lego love machine (NSFW) ( http://tinyurl.com/92cs85 ) # GSFN post: Most exciting woman in the world, Eartha Kitt dies ( http://tinyurl.com/8jhuly ) # GSFN post: Wallace and Gromit top TV ratings ( http://tinyurl.com/7ak4ad ) # GSFN post: Twilight scares off rival ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/12/30/twitter-updates-for-2008-12-30/ @Jaynatopia Good morning! # Powered by Twitter Tools. http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/12/29/twitter-updates-for-2008-12-29/ Drew is recording a new opening for the podcast - He's so creative! # Me, I'm trying to tidy up the sound issues with the last podcast - uploading newly edited episode 32, available shortly. # GSFN post: GSFN Show 32: The Christmas episode (reloaded) ( http://tinyurl.com/a7vkfd ) # Bastard f'ing iTunes is ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/12/27/twitter-updates-for-2008-12-27/ Quality of the last podcast might be a little off. Hoping to sort it out later and repost it. # Powered by Twitter Tools. http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/12/26/twitter-updates-for-2008-12-26/ Merry Christmas to all our fellow homotextuals! # GSFN post: GSFN Show 32: The Christmas episode ( http://tinyurl.com/a3sxpu ) # @DarekMeridian Best wishes to you, Jason and family, lots of hugs from H & P # Powered by Twitter Tools. http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/12/25/twitter-updates-for-2008-12-25/ Getting ready to record a new GSFN podcast. # Powered by Twitter Tools. http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/12/22/twitter-updates-for-2008-12-22/ GSFN post: 60,000-Piece Lego Star Wars Hoth diorama ( http://tinyurl.com/7yk6jb ) # Powered by Twitter Tools. http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/12/21/twitter-updates-for-2008-12-21/ Greetings Negotiators! Catamaran Spa and Resort San Diego, CA Though it is now nearly noon, this picture is a beautiful shot of where I'm writing you from. I'm sitting on the fifth floor of that tall building on the right side of the photograph look ing back down at the boats ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/09/29/pretending-to-vacation/ The Negotiator's Basic Training by: Bruce Burns 1. Study your Play book When you find yourself in the specific tunnel leading you to the playing field of a negotiation NOTHING is more important than BEING READY! Evaluate your Positions, Evaluate your Negotiating Compliment's (party or parties you Negotiate with) Positions Achieve Maximum Familiarity with your ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/09/05/the-negotiators-basic-training/ Greetings Negotiators! I've been laying a little low but as summer cools off I'm easing back into the money-never-sleeps world wide web with some fresh content.  One thing I've just put into the data stream is my new portal site.  At http://bruce-burns.com you can find all the different websites that I ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/08/30/who-is-bruce-burns/ Greetings Negotiators! I've been away from the daily discipline of blogging but never has a day gone by that I wasn't taking Negotiating to the edge and beyond.  As a 4th of July gift to you all I will return to a most basic concept and break it down with some ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/07/03/planting-the-seed/ Greetings Communicators! Have you ever watched a kid play with legos or for those of you who are as ancient as I am, Lincoln Logs? They will spend hours fascinated by what comes out of their...what? What is the operative process in what a child or adult is doing ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/02/12/building-blocks-of-communication-and-negotiation/ Greetings Communicators and Negotiators! Some of you may have been wondering why there's been no new posts in a month's time.  One of my pet peeves is "excuses".  In all my years of having someone to account to - I've only heard 1 person not like this comment: "I have no ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2008/01/25/personal-calibration/ Greetings Negotiators!, Since I've had great success keeping up with this blog (blogging everyday....not)I've decided to launch a second blog. Actually my blog diversity is simply a way to maintain the integrity of each of the two areas that the blogs represent: 1)Negotiation (of course) and 2)Ho'oponopono. There may ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/12/20/a-second-blog-is-born/ Greetings Negotiators! This weekend I spent an entire day with a client. He was managing many major changes in his life and it requires him to work 18 hours a day, seven days a week. While I happened to be in ear-shot he received a call from an ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/12/17/a-passionate-negotiation/ Greetings Negotiators! I promised to talk about T-Shirts and Maui last night so let me cut to the chase. In a few hours I'll be driving Suzanne and myself to the airport to fly to Hawaii. How does that make me feel - you ask? Probably not (you didn't ask) but ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/11/28/zero-limits-in-maui/ Greetings Negotiators! The holidays have struck again and people are fighting at department stores at 5am to be the first through the doors. I remember a few years back when I arrived at my local theater at 5 am to be the second family in line for Revenge of the Sith ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/11/27/holidays-inspire-citizen-violence/ Greetings Negotiators! I've been Negotiating calories but not to my own best good for a long time. I had the good fortune of being invited onto a One Hour Teleconference training call as the guest speaker twice in the past few weeks. The products and services that the company ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/10/04/negotiating-fat/ Greetings Negotiators! I took on a new client last night.  She's in a work situation that is intolerable to her.  Her work-situation-pain was bad enough that a friend put her in contact with the Negotiator! The basics of her situation are that she is the most seasoned professional in her field at ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/10/02/collapsing-the-frame-or-are-you-just-attacking/ Greetings Negotiators, Daters and Couples! Within the framework of Negotiations, the most consistently passionate Negotiations that I see in my work daily is that of Negotiating in a Relationship. My wife and I have been watching an amazing new show on HBO: Tell Me You Love Me. Suzanne and ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/09/27/relationship-coaching/ Greetings Negotiators! Later this morning I'm giving a one hour Tele-Seminar to a group of business professionals who are seeking to grow and refine their business practices, especially in the arena of closing the deal. So, I decided I would get fully associated with the topic by returning to my ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/09/22/ask-until/ Greetings Negotiators! Although I am passionate about my Negotiating material, insights, strategies, etc., I do my best to shy away from controversial topics for my blog. I differentiate between controversial and sensational. Sensational draws clicks to my site, gets peoples' voyeuristic side engaged and is a great marketing tool. ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/09/18/a-negotiators-greatest-resource/ Greetings Negotiators! In the late summer of 2001 I had the habit of working at night and sleeping during the early hours of the morning. After having descended into the blissful oblivion of up-all-night sleep at about 6 am on September 11th, I was awakened sometime after 8am by my ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/09/11/remembering-911/ Greetings Negotiators! In the last few days my subscriber list has climb considerably! I want to welcome all the new folks to my Negotiator's Training Grounds. Some of the new subscribers might have heard about my website, products and services through Pat O'bryan's recent book Launch:   So of course I ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/09/06/thanks-pat-obryan/ Greetings Negotiators, Two weekends ago I went to a "Metaphysical Seminar" or something like that. Now, I'm not sure if I come off as being skeptical in my posts or not, but if I don't, I am. And if I don't it's probably just an unconscious reaction to the ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/08/12/before-and-after/ Greetings Negotiators! This afternoon I was doing the weekly grocery shopping with my wife at our favorite has-everything, high-end grocery store. We buy their store-brand dog food in three different flavors for our two furry children, Smooches and Nikita. So we get three cases worth and there were ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/08/05/second-negotiator/ Greetings Negotiators! The priviledge of working with and around Dr. Joe Vitale mrfire.com at various public events would take "Harry Potter book size" blog posts to cover. Recently I was invited to contribute at Joe's Hometown (Wimberley, Texas)book signing that he did at a local business http://www.ranchodeluxe.net/AboutUs.htm Sally at Rancho Deluxe Bruce at ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/08/01/hometown-security/ Greetings Negotiators! I once read a book titled In Resonance by Jasmuheen. The book included a list of spiritual laws. One of those 33 laws was The Law of Adaptation. If I was to merge my knowledge base of Negotiation with her list of Universal Laws - I ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/07/28/what-do-lindsay-lohan-and-nasa-astronaughts-have-in-common/ Greetings Negotiators! I have a TV card built into my PC and dual monitors so I can work and (believe it or not) watch TV. I don't watch much TV but sometime during each day I'll channel surf to get a glimpse of what's going on in the world beyond ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/07/25/face-an-interview-with-teeth/ Greetings Negotiators! One of my earlier mentors was Anthony Robbins - author of Unlimited Power, Awaken the Giant Within and so much more. Part of my training under his tutalage was a process called "false neuro-association". It basically means when someone links a relationship between two things when there ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/07/23/its-the-knight/ One of the things I do that my wife makes fun of me for is that when I'm lonely and in traffic I will often call her and just talk but soon the road has my attention and talking to her leads to talking to the traffic. She thinks ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/07/20/should-i-build-an-ark/ Good Morning Negotiators!I say good morning because I haven't been up this early since... Today is the big Move for Suzanne and I and yesterday on the way home, spending our last night in our old house this is what we saw: So, until I hook up my new internet connection (sometime ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/07/06/somewhere-over-the/ Greetings Negotiators! My great friends Dr. Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Len have given me a wonderful birthday present this year!! They published me in their new book: My wife, Suzanne is also published in this fine work. It's amazing the difference between talking about a great idea and actually ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/07/04/negotiating-life/   Updating my Site Complain, Comment, Praise or just plain ol NEGOTIATE http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/07/01/upgrading-my-site/ Actually I didn't go anywhere.  I've surfing the avalanche of my life which has included many changes. First and Foremost! I've been completing some material that will be available any day now for purchase.  I won't give too much away now - lets just say this is a Negotiator's First Dimension ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/06/30/im-back/ In some sports a false start is enough to disqualify a contender. The same is true in the human discourse often referred to as Negotiation. One error the ill-trained Negotiator makes before she ever gets to the Negotiating Table is to attempt to second guess or assume things ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/06/19/false-start/ Greetings All! I'm not big on LONG HEADLINES - however I am a sucker for any resourceful question. I'm sure each of you has stopped everything you are doing to contemplate the answer to today's post's headline. Hopefully I'll remember to give you the answer somewhere in this post! First ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/06/16/what-do-venus-williams-king-edward-the-i-erin-murphy-joe-piscopo-and-barry-manilo-have-in-common/ Because of the buzz - I've been keeping up with the Great Paris Hilton Suspended License case. I remember reading in the first few days of her sentence on the busiest blog on the internet (at that moment) about how people were crying 'foul' at the top of their ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/06/12/paris-hiltons-treatment/ In the last few days I've been doing some significant Negotiating to My Family's Own Best Good. My wife and I have been working to create (currently a surprise to the public) something new in our life. When we've completed the manifestation we'll be glad to share our ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/06/07/why-do-we-negotiate/ On occassion after a long work day my wife and I will gather around the world's largest dlp big screen TV in the world and watch a pay-per-view movie if we can find one we both agree on. Last night we happened upon M. Night Shyamalan's Lady in the ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/06/01/m-night-shyamalan/ Greetings Negotiators!How many times a year do you download something or open some file on the internet then wham! your computer stops working or works with a significant degraded capacity? I do it about ever six months.  One of my skill sets is that I custom build computers, develop LANs ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/30/open-source/ One of my most active clients has requested Negotiation Training for the specific use of courting his future-life-mate-to-be. Of course I start out by illiciting the ideal picture of my client. I then illicit the current "real" picture based on results and self-defined criteria of the client himself. ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/25/flirting-for-your-own-best-good/ Greetings Negotiators! My wife, Suzanne is a very devoted entrepreneur. When she's managing her home-based business and I "pop-in" her Ignore Quotient is quite high. This morning while I was showering I thought I might negotiate through her high Ignore Quotient by creating a pattern-interrupt (see #10). I ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/22/life-detail-updates/ Greetings Negotiators! One of my busiest clients happens to also be my most challenging client. Challenging in that there are circumstances in his personal life that influence his state (see #9) so greatly that each time I deal with him I never know what page we'll start on. This ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/21/beyond-your-control/ Greetings Negotiators! My Master Mind took a little break in our schedule recently for various wonderful reasons including my 13th Wedding Anniversary. Last night we picked back up and nothing is as amazing as revving up your creative process as joining others to realize your unlimited power. The daily ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/19/master-mind-again/ If you've been reading and listening to my material this concept Every Form of Communication IS a Negotiation isn't new to you. If you are joining for the first time then now you've heard it. I often say it to clients as a form of training - giving them ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/14/every-form-of-communication-is-a-negotiation/ The beauty of Negotiating is that it's not a skill set that you have to 'wait' to apply. You don't have to be in a certain situation or with a certain person or clocked in...to use it. Once you start using it for all the benefits it will ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/09/drawing-the-line/ Greetings Negotiators! Do you know anyone who tries so hard to be "liked" personally or in business that they finish someone's sentences or extrapolate what the "other" person is thinking or feeling based on just a few words?  Have you ever met a person in business that treated you this way ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/08/mind-reading/ Greetings Negotiators! The path that led me to become a Negotiating Trainer was personal and professional intervention. In every single intervention I've ever completed that had to do with "relationships" - I added this resource to my client's resourceful skill set: "Never Play Someone Else's Game" One element of intervention that ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/06/play-your-game/ Greetings Negotiators! Yesterday afternoon I was working with one of my long-term clients. Our business relationship is such that I walk him through negotiations over the phone and once in a while I'll go along with him on a face-to-face meeting. Before I say anything else about this client ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/05/03/self-worth-translate-into-true-dollar-value/ For most of my life understanding the active ingredient of any experience required me to EXPERIENCE it. This often meant that not only did I throw caution to the wind but I threw my whole life to the wind. I can think back on a distant memory of ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/30/accessing-leverage-vs-feeling-management/ Greetings Negotiators! I sit with 40-something year old sore muscles thinking about the word "stodgy" and how it's applied to me for quite some time. Last night my adopted niece, Corrie celebrated her 15th birthday party in grand style. Her (my) immediate family rented a party boat for her and ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/29/fear-avoids/ Greetings Negotiators! By signing up you can now receive the new Negotiator's Primer. The Primer is a e-reference in pdf format that gets you started on the road to more effective Negotiations! If you want to make your words count, double, triple or even quadruple the resources you access ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/26/the-negotiators-primer-is-now-available/ The most important step in any negotiation is to follow the advice of the suicide teacher - Socrates. "Know Thyself". In order for you to give something to someone else - you must give it to yourself first. I have emphasized the value of The Art of ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/25/the-invisible-side/ It seems that the folks over at ezinearticles.com liked my article on The Ludicrous Factor which spelled out a simple but powerful element in getting over your fear of negotiations. I've placed the most recent article on my newest web page "Published Works" http://yourownbestgood.com/?page_id=32 I've been getting some excellent ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/24/published-again/ Greetings Negotiators! What's it all for? What makes "Every form of communication is a Negotiation!" significant, true? Resources. Dr. Joe Vitale - one of the contributors of The Secret (the movie) speaks of unconscious counter intentions neutralizing our conscious intentions. The solution to dealing with unconscious counter ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/24/accessing-resources/ In January of this year, the week of the great ice storm here in Austin, Texas - I attended and participated at The Zero Limits Seminar presented by Dr. Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len - who just happen to be the co-authors of a book coming out this ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/22/hawaiian-negotiations/ Greetings Negotiators! You will notice a NEW page on The Negotiator's Secret Blog titled: Online and Offline Apprenticeship! Currently we are building a small, dynamic group of Negotiator Apprentices who are willing to chart their progress and work diligently toward Negotiator Mastery. Those who make the cut as My Apprentices will ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/22/apprenticeship-apprenticeship-apprenticeship/ One misconception that many (not all) people have about Negotiations is that if you don't close now - you don't close. Remember Every Form of Communication is a Negotiation. My father who will be 73 this fall is as health conscious as a tri-athlete and has been for ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/20/negotiation-through-time/ Perhaps the most significant contribution to the science of human behavior was a quantum physics principle revealed by Werner Heisenberg known simply as The Uncertainty Principle.  We stay stuck in our lives because...we stay stuck in our lives.  The movement out of 'stuck' is what we do the moment we ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/19/inspiration-leads-to-inspiration/ Greetings Negotiators! Today I had a business lunch with my favorite client.  She's launching quite a few new products online and she's really enter a new league of Internet Marketing.  As a result of stepping up her game - she's added some consultants to her retinue in order to meets some ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/18/feeling-vs-right-action/ Yesterday I was at a New Age bookstore in South Austin.  The behind-the-counter clerk stands out in my mind like a larger-than-life movie.  First of all - I don't usually encounter "high visual" people outside of setting that are usually defined by a stage.  "High Visual" is an NLP term ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/16/the-secret/ My Marathon Master Minders met yesterday again. Fridays evenings are a stretch even for the self-employed. Half the group drives from San Antonio to Austin and then spends the night. We always let the person who went last (last time) go first for the current gathering. ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/14/spring-mastermind/ Good Morning Negotiators! Yesterday evening I negotiated Bull Creek with my two dogs Smooches and Nikita. My wife and I watched the sun go down and our two canine children swim in the cool waters of a local "leash free" gathering spot. We were celebrating climbing out from under the oh-so-happy ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/13/up-the-creek/ Greetings Negotiators! I've passed the 1 month mark on a Vegan Diet. I've lost over 8 pounds in the last month! So what am I negotiating? I'm negotiating my health and "look" with my body. I'm negotiating some small drop of "wellness"for the planet. Nearly half the fresh ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/12/vegan-out-of-the-closet/ Another essential aspect of Negotiating Successfully is to understand the rules of the context that you are in. It's Tax Season and the internal pressures of my household shift dramatically at this time as both my wife and I are self-employed. Paying your taxes is a form of ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/11/rules-of-the-game/ I was having my Night-Salad and watching some CNNish type TV this evening when I heard about the Imus event. What I mostly saw was Al Sharpton looking kind of rough, claiming he didn't take the comment personally then flinging his daughter at the camera. The comment that Imus ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/10/imus-and-controversy/ Hello Negotiator, Today's Tip is The Negotiator discussing the concept of Every Form of Communication is a Negotiation. Please click on the Audio Tips Page to hear today's PodCast. Sit back and soak it up. Bruce http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/07/everything-is-negotiation/ Greetings Negotiators! Last night I had the great fortune of speaking with a woman named Kelly for the first time who had read The Attractor Factor by Dr. Joe Vitale. She was in alot of emotional pain and after reading a part of the his book she was inspired to ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/06/go-means-pressing-the-right-pedal/ As I transition from "just" an interventionist and Negotiator Trainer Extraordinaire to an Internet Marketer - I have to do what every first grader has to do - pick up new skills and tools. The Internet Marketing Masters that have been training me whisper in my ear "Go WordPress". ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/04/04/finally-wordpress/ Greetings Again! No one provides me as much opportunity to negotiate as my wife does. If you are in an intimate relationship and it's lasted longer than a weekend then you have experienced the duel of wills that occurs between two people that function like two people but think they ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/03/29/negotiation-and-personal-relationships/ Hello and How are your Negotiations coming along? Where does a negotiation start? Each starts inside of you. For example - lets assume for sample-context sake that you are hungry. Negotiations almost always begin (as does any tangible object) as a question or questions. "Am I hungry?" ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/03/19/is-it-vay-gun-or-vee-ghin/ William Shatner certainly uses a diffrent technique than I do (notice the stun gun)to close his Negotiating Complements. See if you can tell who asked the resourceful question in the clip? http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/03/18/william-shatner-in-priceline/ During my local Master Mind meeting Friday night I was inspired to set up a new website that says "Negotiate" stronger than www.yourownbestgood.com. It's just got a flash intro at the moment but I suspect this is where I will actually market my audio products. www.negotiate2yourownbestgood.com. So ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/03/18/new-website/ Yesterday afternoon I had the good fortune of being interviewed by Nancy Wagner, author of http://www.createyourownrealitynow.com. She recorded the interview which I hope to use soundbites from for my website www.yourownbestgood.com. Her interview style is wonderful and I'm considering using her for my future audio products. Nancy ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/03/07/interview-with-nancy/ In the movie Boiler Room http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0181984/ (and others like it) one of their mottos was "Always Be Closing". Most aggressive salespeople learn this one too - so if you've done any hardcore sales you don't have to see the movie (I thought it was a pretty good). In Negotiating to ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/02/23/abn/ In the posts to come we'll share, debate, accept, deny, ponder and be given a full set of keys to Negotiating to Your Own Best Good! If this forum were really a Seminar or a large volume of audio CDs you could listen to in your trip to work ... http://yourownbestgood.com/2007/02/19/what-is-the-first-key-to-negotiating/