Fri 25 May 2007
Flirting for Your Own Best Good
Posted by Bruce The Negotiator under Asking Questions, Humor, Negotiation, Negotiation Rules, Relationships, The Negotiator
One of my most active clients has requested Negotiation Training for the specific use of courting his future-life-mate-to-be. Of course I start out by illiciting the ideal picture of my client. I then illicit the current “real” picture based on results and self-defined criteria of the client himself. One of the hardest things for any client to hear is what they are doing that sabotages their intentions. Usually a process that sabotages an intention is the result of a very passionately held belief that may have once served you but is currently a limiting belief.
His situation is that he’s had several unfulfilled relationships in the last 8 or 9 years. He really wants to step-up the quality of his mate-choice process and discover someone that is willing to commit for the long haul. As we began our training for this aspect of his life - I do what I always do - ask resourceful questions. When someone asks you a resourceful question, what they are really doing is examining your life. A resourceful question is almost always a question that you ask someone else that they themselves have refused or not known to ask their own self. Thus the essence of The Art of Asking Resourceful Questions is revealed by the relative significance of any question to the person being asked.
As I began my barrage of resourceful questions I soon discovered that my client had a low frequency of flirting as a result of having a vast array of rules governing his own process of flirting. I challenged his information and instructed him to practice every chance he was offered. This was quite challenging to him and he of course showed me his resistance. His resistance was-is a form of anxiety that is defined by unresourceful questions such as “What if I’m wasting my time? What if she’s not the one? What if she states on her myspace account that she’s not looking? What if she’s wearing a ring and I’m not sure if it’s a wedding ring or not..” His list was endless.
We have all played the “what if” game. When adults play it to prevent taking action - they can become self-oppressing. When I find a client has this much resistance to new information then the new behavior I help them install must be easy and simple - something they can do all the time in any situation without alot of thought. For this client the prescription was this: 1)Ask any woman you meet thoughtful questions and 2)Make her feel good. Of course he had a million questions and “what ifs” and so on. He didn’t like the specific instructions - he wanted to “get there himself” so he asked me for a metaphor as a guide. My metaphor was “Treat flirting like golf. When a woman appears before you in any situation think of the golf rule of “playing the ball where it lands”. So if you are in a restaurant, on a subway, walking your dog, jogging, parking your car, etc. that is the right place to flirt. He had another wave of questions for this of course. Resistance is as resitance does not.
The purpose of my instruction was for him to become masterful at flirting so that if he ever did meet the one he’d be ready for it instead of getting overwhelmed by his emotions and choking. Have you ever been in a situation where you knew what you wanted in a relationship but you had no idea what to say next to get it? Feel free to share your thoughts and comments or even your questions in the comment section or you can write me directly at justask@yourownbestgood.com.
What would happen if you were able to flirt for your own best good?
Bruce Burns the Negotiator!
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