Greetings Negotiators!

Yesterday afternoon I was working with one of my long-term clients. Our business relationship is such that I walk him through negotiations over the phone and once in a while I’ll go along with him on a face-to-face meeting. Before I say anything else about this client – I want to make it clear that he has come a long way from his previous Negotiating patterns.

Yesterday evening was the initial meet-and-greet with new client for him. I went along as a consultant. My client examined his new prospect’s business and when the client asked for the bottom line – my client impressed me by asking for more than I would have asked. I sat there smiling at my client thinking he’s really been learning a lot since the last time we did a meet-and-greet together.

The new prospect didn’t hesitate when he agreed to what I thought was an outrageously high price. Once again I was impressed. A Negotiator really has to believe in himself/herself to utter the outrageous and have someone “just agree”. I assisted my client in performing the work that was involved. The situation was either the “fix” was going to be fairly straightforward or it was going to be an “allnighter” with complex troubleshooting involved. During the course of “the fix” a situation popped up that required “the client” to be inconvenienced. My client offered a discount and that seemed to oil the wheels of commerce between the two companies.

At the end of the evening “the client” asked for the total and my client suddenly showed his fear which was reflective of his own self-worth. The number he gave “the client” was 20 percent less than the original outrageous number. I thought: “I wouldn’t have managed it that way – but he did offer a discount”. Then my client said “Oh, I also promised you a discount.” When it was all said and done – my client gave the client about a 30% cut on the originally agreed to price.

The Client didn’t negotiate at all. He agreed to every number that was presented to him. Ironically the type of company the client had was a call center where all the employees sole purpose was to close people for profit.

One of the precepts that is elemental in the journey of a Negotiator is to ALWAYS BE WILLING TO RECEIVE MORE THAN YOU ASK FOR OR WANT. If I had to create an affirmation that was representative of that essential negotiating concept it would be: “I always negotiate to my own best good. I always accept the complete manifestation of my intentions. I love that the universe can provide me infinite percent more than I have asked for and I’m willing to accept that as well.”

Do you ever find yourself Negotiating down out of fear? Negotiating Down is when your Negotiating Complement has congruently accepted your proposal-offer and then you reduce it. I’ve given you an affirmation that is intended to guide your conscious and unconscious toward accepting all that you ask for and more. What would be the opposite of the affirmation for you? If you can identify what that opposite is – you will have uncovered an unconscious counter intention that minimizes your fullfilment and success. Bringing limiting beliefs and counter-intentions to the conscious level allows us to clean them out and be free of their shackles.

If you have Negotiating Fears or find yourself Negotiating Down and would like some help, leave a comment or email me at justask@yourownbestgood.com

Bruce Burns the Negotiator!